How to Manage Annoyance

Easy and even silly ways to manage annoyance

Guzalia Davis

I’d like to share with you a little trick I teach my clients to help them manage their annoyance and anger levels.

Practice replacing your negative response with fascination (where it’s appropriate).


1. Your kids get really loud and that annoys you.

– You respond with “Wow! you really can hit that high note!”

2. You get annoyed or offended by someone’s use of foul language.

– You respond with “Wow! I’m curious what sort of adventures forced you to expand your vocabulary like that.”

3. Someone cuts you off in traffic.

– instead of getting angry, respond with “Wow! This guy is fast and fearless! has no fear of death at all.”

Very soon, you’ll train your body to boost good hormones instead of bad ones in response to negative situations.

Dealing with everyday annoyances is an important skill to have if you want to maintain your peace of mind and avoid unnecessary stress. Annoyances can come in all shapes and sizes, from someone cutting you off in traffic to a coworker interrupting you during a meeting. Whatever the source of your annoyance, there are steps you can take to manage your emotions and respond in a more constructive way.

Here are some tips on how to deal with everyday annoyances:
  1. Take a deep breath and count to 10: When you feel yourself getting annoyed, take a moment to pause and take a few deep breaths. This will give you a chance to calm down and collect your thoughts before responding.

  2. Identify the source of the annoyance: Try to understand what is causing your annoyance. Is it something someone said or did, or is it a situation that is out of your control? Once you understand the source of your annoyance, you can take steps to address it.

  3. Choose your response: You can choose how you respond to the annoyance. You can react emotionally and lash out, or you can respond calmly and constructively. Try to choose a response that will help you resolve the situation in a positive way.

  4. Reframe the situation: Sometimes, reframing the situation can help you see it in a different light. Instead of focusing on the annoyance, try to see it as an opportunity to learn and grow. Ask yourself what you can learn from the situation and how you can use it to improve yourself.

  5. Practice self-care: Taking care of yourself can help you deal with everyday annoyances more effectively. Make sure you are getting enough rest, exercise, and healthy food. Take breaks when you need them and do things that make you happy and relaxed.

  6. Let it go: Finally, sometimes the best way to deal with an annoyance is to let it go. Holding onto anger or resentment will only hurt you in the long run. If you can’t change the situation, try to accept it and move on.

Dealing with everyday annoyances can be challenging, but with practice, you can develop the skills you need to manage your emotions and respond in a more constructive way. By taking care of yourself and choosing your response, you can maintain your peace of mind and avoid unnecessary stress. Remember, it’s not what happens to you that matters, but how you respond to it.